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    The StepFamily Center is dedicated to strengthening couples so they can successfully meet the challenges of the stepfamily experience!

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    Navigating stepfamily life can be difficult for everybody involved – the stepparents, the stepchildren, and the biological parents. We attempt to answer some commonly asked questions about everybody’s role in a stepfamily.

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9 Tasks for a Satisfying Marriage: Tasks 4-6

Written by Susan Swanson on . Posted in Marriage, Relationships, Remarriage

Now that you have had a chance to work on the first three tasks – creating coupleness, building a sense of togetherness and the issue of becoming instant parents – this month’s article will discuss the next three tasks that Dr. Judith Wallerstein believes will help you create a more satisfying marriage.

Again, take the time to read through these with your partner, and discuss the challenges of each. Doing so can help you create a stronger couple relationship.

9 Tasks for a Satisfying Marriage: Tasks 1-3

Written by Susan Swanson on . Posted in Marriage, Relationships, Remarriage

Creating a satisfying marriage is not always easy – but it’s not impossible either. Dr. Judith Wallerstein determined nine tasks successful couples can do to create a satisfying marriage based on her study of couples married 10 years or more.

Because each task deserves some elaboration, they will be broken into three separate articles. As you read these tasks, think about how each becomes even more challenging when you are a stepcouple.

Happy StepMother’s Day!

Written by Susan Swanson on . Posted in Stepmom

It’s May, the month of Mother’s Day. While mothers all over the country are looking forward to celebrating this day with their children, many stepmoms are left wondering how and where they fit in.

Being a stepmother is by far the hardest role in the stepfamily system. And this isn’t just a two-time stepmother telling you that — it’s what a study of 1,400 stepfamilies discovered. While being a stepfather is difficult as well, stepmothers can receive a level of anger from stepchildren and ex-spouses that stepfathers rarely experience.

Why Can’t My New Partner Love My Child?

Written by Susan Swanson on . Posted in Biological Kids, Parenting, Relationships, Remarriage, Stepdad, Stepkids, Stepmom, Stepparents, Therapy

“I don’t understand how she cannot love Isabel (8). I know she’s acting out a lot of anger about the divorce, but she’s so loving and adorable!”

It is said that nobody can truly love a child like a child’s own parents. We were the ones who saw how precious they were as infants, and who they needed and depended upon growing up. We were the ones feeling pride at each and every milestone, as if our kids were the only children learning to turn over, crawl, and walk. And we fell in love completely the first moment we heard the words “mama” and “dada.”

This love we have for our children is often so powerful that we cannot imagine how a new spouse, who professes to love us so much, does not feel the same way.