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Stepmoms: What to do When the Biological Parent Is Certain it’s All Your Problem

Written by Susan Swanson on . Posted in Biological Kids, Parenting, Relationships, Remarriage, Stepkids, Stepmom, Stepparents, Therapy

It is so common for parents of biological children to feel that the problem in the relationship between their kids and the stepparent belongs to the person in the step position.

“If they were only nicer, kinder, more understanding, or more forgiving,” they think, “things wouldn’t be such a big deal.”

Dating Isn’t Just for New Couples: 5 Rules for Dating Your Spouse

Written by Susan Swanson on . Posted in Marriage, Relationships, Remarriage, Stepdad, Stepmom

Married life is hard work. Between jobs, kids, social obligations, family and friends, your relationship is often the last thing you put effort into.

When you first started out, you likely made sure to take the time needed to go on dates, spend quality time together and get to know each other. Once you said, “I do,” you probably breathed a sigh of relief thinking you’d never have to date again. You were wrong.

One of the most important things you can do for your relationship is to have weekly date nights. No matter how much you have going on during the week, how long you’ve been together, how many kids you have, or how much you hated dating when you were single, there is no excuse to not take an evening out of the week to reconnect with your partner.

8 Ways to Overcome Anger and Resentment in Your Stepfamily

Written by Susan Swanson on . Posted in Relationships, Remarriage, Stepdad, Stepmom, Stepparents

As much as we don’t want them to be there, anger and resentment are common in stepfamilies. It’s easy for a stepparent to become angry that their partner’s ex isn’t holding up their end of their responsibilities, or angry that their partner doesn’t notice how much they are doing.

And it’s easy for a stepparent to become resentful about running an entire household while helping raise another person’s children or feeling like they are being taken for granted.

Happy StepMother’s Day!

Written by Susan Swanson on . Posted in Stepmom

It’s May, the month of Mother’s Day. While mothers all over the country are looking forward to celebrating this day with their children, many stepmoms are left wondering how and where they fit in.

Being a stepmother is by far the hardest role in the stepfamily system. And this isn’t just a two-time stepmother telling you that — it’s what a study of 1,400 stepfamilies discovered. While being a stepfather is difficult as well, stepmothers can receive a level of anger from stepchildren and ex-spouses that stepfathers rarely experience.

The 5 Fantasies of Stepfamily Life

Written by Susan Swanson on . Posted in Relationships, Remarriage, Stepdad, Stepkids, Stepmom, Stepparents

You’ve pictured it since you met your new partner: the marriage, the children, a cozy home together.

You never thought of all the things that could disrupt this idyllic picture: the chance that your stepchildren won’t like you, the ex that will not seem to disappear, and the challenges of parenting a stepchild.

Entering into a stepfamily often means entering into many unrealistic fantasies. Below are five common fantasies you may have that often create disappointment in a stepfamily.