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    Navigating stepfamily life can be difficult for everybody involved – the stepparents, the stepchildren, and the biological parents. We attempt to answer some commonly asked questions about everybody’s role in a stepfamily.

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    Sometimes just hearing what someone else has to say helps so much! I encourage you to write down your own experiences and send them to us. It’s wonderful and healing when you come to realize that whatever you are going through, someone else is going through the same thing. It is my hope to make this site informative and helpful in your journey.


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    There are more than 1,000 new stepfamilies
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    The StepFamily Center is dedicated to strengthening couples so they can successfully meet the challenges of the stepfamily experience!

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9 Tasks for a Satisfying Marriage: Tasks 1-3

Written by Susan Swanson on . Posted in Marriage, Relationships, Remarriage

Creating a satisfying marriage is not always easy – but it’s not impossible either. Dr. Judith Wallerstein determined nine tasks successful couples can do to create a satisfying marriage based on her study of couples married 10 years or more.

Because each task deserves some elaboration, they will be broken into three separate articles. As you read these tasks, think about how each becomes even more challenging when you are a stepcouple.

Bringing a New Baby into a Stepfamily

Written by Susan Swanson on . Posted in Biological Kids, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships, Remarriage, Stepparents

You’ve married your perfect partner and finally become pregnant with your child together. It is your first child and your partner’s third. He is excited, but you don’t feel that he is as excited about the pregnancy as you are. Your partner’s other children are definitely not as excited about it as you, and you can already sense jealousy of the new baby.

The joy you were experiencing at the thought of your first born has become lessened by the anxiety of bringing your baby into a stepfamily.

Parenting Together as a New Stepcouple

Written by Susan Swanson on . Posted in Marriage, Parenting, Remarriage, Stepkids, Stepparents

Every person has his or her own idea of what it means to parent. As long as both parents are pretty much on the same page, parenting your children can be a somewhat painless undertaking.

But in a new marriage that includes stepchildren, the partners may not always be on the same page. And that could mean trouble given that the challenges in a stepfamily are endless.

Here are some ways to make sure you and your new partner can parent together as a new stepcouple to keep your relationship united:

I Sit Here This Morning

Written by Susan Swanson on . Posted in Biological Kids, Divorce, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships, Remarriage, Stepdad, Stepkids, Stepmom, Stepparents, Therapy

Two weeks into my new Stepfamily, my second Stepfamily to be exact. I planned to get up this morning, turn on my computer and, with a cup of coffee, have a luxurious morning to collect my thoughts before my workday begins. But, at 8 a.m., my pretty new stepdaughter flies into the house and announces, “My school day doesn’t start until 9:30 today!” and proceeds to set up her homework on the dining room table. I got into the shower and thought about how I got here, at this time in my life.

For the past five years, I have lived alone, learning about myself, my rituals, my routines. I had the luxury of having my own space, with no kids around, and I fit into it nicely. I enjoy my time with no interruptions, when I can “screen” calls and determine when and how I want to be interrupted.