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Reader Question: How do you Deal with a Stepfather and Daughter Who Don’t Respect Each Other?

Written by Susan Swanson on . Posted in Biological Kids, Parenting, Remarriage, Stepparents

Question from a reader: How do you deal with a stepfather and daughter who don’t respect each other and have said some horrible things to each other that obviously can’t be taken back and were quite hurtful? I am always stuck in the middle, love them both, and honestly don’t know which way to turn. Any ideas?

Stepmoms: What to do When the Biological Parent Is Certain it’s All Your Problem

Written by Susan Swanson on . Posted in Biological Kids, Parenting, Relationships, Remarriage, Stepkids, Stepmom, Stepparents, Therapy

It is so common for parents of biological children to feel that the problem in the relationship between their kids and the stepparent belongs to the person in the step position.

“If they were only nicer, kinder, more understanding, or more forgiving,” they think, “things wouldn’t be such a big deal.”

Bringing a New Baby into a Stepfamily

Written by Susan Swanson on . Posted in Biological Kids, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships, Remarriage, Stepparents

You’ve married your perfect partner and finally become pregnant with your child together. It is your first child and your partner’s third. He is excited, but you don’t feel that he is as excited about the pregnancy as you are. Your partner’s other children are definitely not as excited about it as you, and you can already sense jealousy of the new baby.

The joy you were experiencing at the thought of your first born has become lessened by the anxiety of bringing your baby into a stepfamily.

Why Can’t My New Partner Love My Child?

Written by Susan Swanson on . Posted in Biological Kids, Parenting, Relationships, Remarriage, Stepdad, Stepkids, Stepmom, Stepparents, Therapy

“I don’t understand how she cannot love Isabel (8). I know she’s acting out a lot of anger about the divorce, but she’s so loving and adorable!”

It is said that nobody can truly love a child like a child’s own parents. We were the ones who saw how precious they were as infants, and who they needed and depended upon growing up. We were the ones feeling pride at each and every milestone, as if our kids were the only children learning to turn over, crawl, and walk. And we fell in love completely the first moment we heard the words “mama” and “dada.”

This love we have for our children is often so powerful that we cannot imagine how a new spouse, who professes to love us so much, does not feel the same way.