Navigating stepfamily life can be difficult for everybody involved – the stepparents, the stepchildren, and the biological parents. We attempt to answer some commonly asked questions about everybody’s role in a stepfamily.
Sometimes just hearing what someone else has to say helps so much! I encourage you to write down your own experiences and send them to us. It’s wonderful and healing when you come to realize that whatever you are going through, someone else is going through the same thing. It is my hope to make this site informative and helpful in your journey.
Healing the Stepfamily from the inside out.
The StepFamily Center is dedicated to strengthening couples so they can successfully meet the challenges of the stepfamily experience!
“I don’t understand why this is so hard and why I feel left out all the time.”
“I feel like I don’t belong in my own home.”
“I dread the visits with his children.”
If you are feeling overwhelmed in your new stepfamily, or blended family, you are not alone.
A relationship with stepchildren increases stress on the newly remarried couple in ways that couples without children do not experience.
Not only is the new couple trying to figure out how to navigate these relationships, but the children are trying to figure out who this new person is in their lives. As a stepparent, you may find it hard to imagine why your stepson or stepdaughter continues to reject you when you try so hard, or wonder how you will continue to deal with your partner’s ex-spouse.
Today, it is actually more common for people to be in a blended family than to be in a traditional nuclear family dynamic. In a remarried couple with children, the roles of each of the adults and the old rules that applied to a “traditional” family don’t apply. Stepfamilies have dynamics unique to them because the roles of a stepmom, stepdad, and stepchildren never fit into a “traditional” family model. These new rules are often not talked about, and you may feel like you are supposed to act like a regular family. But some things are just not “regular” about a new marriage to a partner who already has children!
The StepFamily Center is here to give you a chance to have a successful remarriage with children. Located in Hermosa Beach, Calif., the center offers in-person stepfamily counseling services to help blended families navigate their new roles. The center also offers phone and Skype coaching, and teleseminars for couples and blended families around the country.
Whether you just became a blended family or have been living as a stepfamily for years, we are here to help you and your family succeed!