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    Navigating stepfamily life can be difficult for everybody involved – the stepparents, the stepchildren, and the biological parents. We attempt to answer some commonly asked questions about everybody’s role in a stepfamily.

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    The StepFamily Center is dedicated to strengthening couples so they can successfully meet the challenges of the stepfamily experience!

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    Sometimes just hearing what someone else has to say helps so much! I encourage you to write down your own experiences and send them to us. It’s wonderful and healing when you come to realize that whatever you are going through, someone else is going through the same thing. It is my hope to make this site informative and helpful in your journey.


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Happy StepMother’s Day!

Written by Susan Swanson on . Posted in Stepmom

It’s May, the month of Mother’s Day. While mothers all over the country are looking forward to celebrating this day with their children, many stepmoms are left wondering how and where they fit in.

Being a stepmother is by far the hardest role in the stepfamily system. And this isn’t just a two-time stepmother telling you that — it’s what a study of 1,400 stepfamilies discovered. While being a stepfather is difficult as well, stepmothers can receive a level of anger from stepchildren and ex-spouses that stepfathers rarely experience.

Bringing a New Baby into a Stepfamily

Written by Susan Swanson on . Posted in Biological Kids, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships, Remarriage, Stepparents

You’ve married your perfect partner and finally become pregnant with your child together. It is your first child and your partner’s third. He is excited, but you don’t feel that he is as excited about the pregnancy as you are. Your partner’s other children are definitely not as excited about it as you, and you can already sense jealousy of the new baby.

The joy you were experiencing at the thought of your first born has become lessened by the anxiety of bringing your baby into a stepfamily.

Parenting Together as a New Stepcouple

Written by Susan Swanson on . Posted in Marriage, Parenting, Remarriage, Stepkids, Stepparents

Every person has his or her own idea of what it means to parent. As long as both parents are pretty much on the same page, parenting your children can be a somewhat painless undertaking.

But in a new marriage that includes stepchildren, the partners may not always be on the same page. And that could mean trouble given that the challenges in a stepfamily are endless.

Here are some ways to make sure you and your new partner can parent together as a new stepcouple to keep your relationship united:

The 5 Fantasies of Stepfamily Life

Written by Susan Swanson on . Posted in Relationships, Remarriage, Stepdad, Stepkids, Stepmom, Stepparents

You’ve pictured it since you met your new partner: the marriage, the children, a cozy home together.

You never thought of all the things that could disrupt this idyllic picture: the chance that your stepchildren won’t like you, the ex that will not seem to disappear, and the challenges of parenting a stepchild.

Entering into a stepfamily often means entering into many unrealistic fantasies. Below are five common fantasies you may have that often create disappointment in a stepfamily.

Why Can’t My New Partner Love My Child?

Written by Susan Swanson on . Posted in Biological Kids, Parenting, Relationships, Remarriage, Stepdad, Stepkids, Stepmom, Stepparents, Therapy

“I don’t understand how she cannot love Isabel (8). I know she’s acting out a lot of anger about the divorce, but she’s so loving and adorable!”

It is said that nobody can truly love a child like a child’s own parents. We were the ones who saw how precious they were as infants, and who they needed and depended upon growing up. We were the ones feeling pride at each and every milestone, as if our kids were the only children learning to turn over, crawl, and walk. And we fell in love completely the first moment we heard the words “mama” and “dada.”

This love we have for our children is often so powerful that we cannot imagine how a new spouse, who professes to love us so much, does not feel the same way.